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At uni there was a group of four girls in my halls known as “The Cat Tuesday Mardi Gras Men’s Long Sleeve T Shirt“. They were slim, conventionally attractive, feminine, confident and very bubbly and the men were obsessed with them. And then there was… me, a shy, average build and not very feminine woman, and I was invisible. Some men seemed actively disgusted that I had the nerve to even exist in the same sphere as these godesses, while the nicer men would be flirty and shy with The Angels and talk to me like I was just One Of The Lads, a non-threatening, sexless being. I did wonder if I should starve myself, start wearing dresses, feign more stereotypically feminine interests etc but I just felt so ugly that it all seemed hopeless and I was doomed to be The Cat Tuesday Mardi Gras Men’s Long Sleeve T Shirt forever. Now I’m in my 40s and a bit more confident. I’ve learned to embrace my non-femininity and I feel more comfortable than I ever did feeling exposed in dresses and struggling to walk in heels. I enjoy my nerdy, “masculine” hobbies and thought the female colleagues who judged me for buying an Xbox were the ones missing out. And I have a wonderful partner who has never tried to change me… I still have no body confidence and struggle with self-esteem but it has got better. I see these incel types who think all women have to do to get laid is exist and they don’t realise that a lot of us women are invisible to them and struggle just as much as they do, we just tend to blame ourselves while they blame women. I wish they could also see that teenage insecurities do get better and let go of some of Cat Tuesday Mardi Gras Men’s Long Sleeve T Shirt
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Ok this is going to be a bit of a Cat Tuesday Mardi Gras Men’s Long Sleeve T Shirt. I apologise beforehand. My gender expression is a Cat Tuesday Mardi Gras Men’s Long Sleeve T Shirt more obvious on this particular alt. And my profile has preferred pronouns on it. A couple of days ago – on a completely unrelated sub, someone’s counter to a discussion I thought was being had in good faith was basically this – “You can’t even decide if you’re male or female so don’t… “ etc etc.. Every other week, I go through the process of scrubbing my profile just to obscure my gender identity a bit – just to avoid people sliding into my DMs. I’ve had people ask me extremely inane shit like “oh, are you into XYZ video game, I have never met another woman who plays.” And I’ve been called vile, sexist names for drawing boundaries with these kind of interactions. But that’s just Reddit, right? Can’t take that shit seriously. You ignore and you move on. It’s so much more jarring when you see this behaviour offline. Idk if this is even theCat Tuesday Mardi Gras Men’s Long Sleeve T Shirt to discuss this. I’m in a committed relationship cishet setup. Today, I pointed out to my partner how our family members — usually extremely gung-ho about celebrating the women in the family this one day — completely forgot their yearly tradition because it was also Holi. I was just lightheartedly pointing out just how their posturing has been completely exposed. All it took was another Hindu festival to completely knock off the annual “let’s appreciate our wives and mothers” forwards. Holy shit, did that blow up in my face! My partner then proceeded call me bitter and mansplain why women’s day is important. All this without an iota of the knowledge of the history of these celebrations! Didn’t even bother reading the token editorials and explainers on it. When I added some context, pointed out some of my issues with it (I needn’t list them, this sub has far better posts on that, I’m sure) the only counter argument to my responses was to attack my rationality and mental health – “what is wrong with your head” Just the sheer irony of this situation makes me cry-laugh. But it was lost on my partner. This man used to preside over MUNs in college?! So that’s been March 8, 2023 for me, folks. 🙂
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